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Mothers Day – A Good Day

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It was Mothers Day on Sunday, how was your Mothers Day?

I’m not a Mother (except to a Basset, that counts right?) but this weekend I didn’t have him (I have joint custody of said Basset, who just had surgery and is recovering with his “Dad” he’s in good hands).

Mothers Day for me is about my Mother. It’s not a day I usually look forward to and this year I decided that I was just going to suck it up and not take things so personally. I was going to listen to the compliment and block out the sentence that comes after. My Mom is pretty good at the old one two. The compliment as bait and then the backhand, so you’re not quite sure if it was a compliment or not. So on Sunday I took the carrot and ducked the backhand.

You know what happened? I had a lovely afternoon with my Mom. She was delighted with her card and the chocolates I got her. Loved that we went for brunch at a simple little place. My Mom was on her best behaviour and so was I. We talked travel, my Mom is heading to Brazil soon to go kayaking. My Mother is seventy-two. She loves to travel, last year she went to Bhutan. We talked about plans for my next trip to Iceland, perhaps a love of travel is a good trait passed on.

We spoke about family back in England and even briefly about my brother and her grandson. Those were danced around but handled with care. My brother and I do not get along. At all. We haven’t spoken in decades, I am not kidding. We spoke about finances and people who don’t manage finances well, my cousin in England. Money Management is another trait that my Mom passed on. She has always been good with money. By the end of lunch we were still smiling and laughing. We’ve both been working on our relationship and now I can see that it’s all been worth it.

When my Granddad got sick a few years ago it started to bring us together more. It made me think of what I wanted from my Mom. Realistically. We can’t go back in time and she wasn’t a perfect Mother but now she tries. Losing my Granddad made me realize how much I do care about her and life is too short.

Next year I think I’ll be looking forward to Mothers Day and in the meantime I will pay attention to her way of showing she cares instead of wondering why she doesn’t do it the way I conjured up in my head. At the end of the day her way really speaks volumes.

I love my Mom.

Is It Friday?

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I always look forward to Friday, who doesn’t?

This Friday though couldn’t come soon enough. Sometime around Monday afternoon I started to ask “Is it Friday yet?”.

This was a long week, Kingsley had surgery. He’s okay he just had a few lumps removed, the third time. He’s just a lumpy dog and develops fatty deposits. When they get too big we get them removed. The problem is I don’t get to see him. I call to see how he’s doing and trust that my hug is delivered but I miss him. I know he’s in good hands though so that makes it a little easier.

Also work has been busy and I would talk more about work but one of the blogs I love to follow warns of the dangers of talking about work. She did and got fired for it. I could, I would have a lot to say and one day I’ll make up a completely fictitious company with events that NEVER happened and stupid people that I don’t work with as the characters. Totally made up …. wink, wink.

This week though I’m too tired. I was going to go to bed earlier, then a friend emailed to tell me the Giro was on. WHAT? Men in spandex on tv? Well I had to watch, it was the team time trial. Congratulations GARMIN! It was a bit of a highlight of my week.

Especially after looking for a Mothers Day card. I always try to find one that says “I’m sure you did the best you could”. Hallmark doesn’t make that one. It has the one’s that say how daughters are happy to be best friends with their Mom, how they love the support and all rainbows and happiness. I love my Mother and our relationship has gotten way better over the years but these don’t seem to fit us. I can’t even imagine a relationship with my Mother where I tell her everything, in fact nothing would horrify me more. We have a pleasant relationship, we talk travel, we stay on safe topics. Open is not really how I would describe us. So I go for the one with big pretty flowers on the front, Mom loves a good card and simply says “Happy Mothers Day” and yes “I love you”.

Now it’s Friday. I just have to get through the day and then I’m having a glass of wine (or two) ordering in and watching a movie. Exciting, I know. I can’t think of anything I would rather do. Then getting out Saturday on my bike!

Sunday I will deliver the card with chocolates to my Mom. Who I do love but who I can’t talk to about everything or travel with. We’ve tried. I can sit through a pleasant lunch and in my own way let her know that I love her.

But first a glass of wine……..